We are less than two months away from what is arguably one of the biggest events of high school. No, not graduation, although that is kind of important too, but first and foremost comes prom. It seems more real than ever before with the theme already announced: “Arabian Nights”. Dresses are being ordered and prom groups are being planned, leaving only one thing: promposals.
Promposals have always been a high school tradition. They are modelled after cheesy marriage proposals and have always been highly anticipated by students. It is not uncommon to see over-dramatic proclamations of affection and publicized requests to take someone to prom. Bright posters, various foods, and colorful streamers are to be expected.
Lately, more and more people are foregoing the dramatics and just asking prospective dates over the phone or, God forbid, through text. People are getting lazier and caring less about making promposals a big deal. But is this really a bad thing?
Oftentimes, when there is a public promposal, the one being asked feels obligated to say yes just to avoid seeming rude. That should not have to be the case. No one should be socially coerced to do something they do not truly want to do. As awkward as rejection can be, everyone is entitled to their own comfort. If the idea of going with some boy who has never spoken to you before makes you uncomfortable, you are allowed to say no! Nonetheless, people feel pressured and are put on the spot. It is not a very fun situation if the answer is no, especially in front of a crowd of peers.
Despite this, elaborate promposals are still adorable, and everyone loves to see cute and creative ideas brought to life. So how can one ask out a prospective date publicly but respectfully? The best tactic is to ask someone out beforehand, to insure that they want to go with you. Then, feel free to officially ask them in whatever way you like.
Now, how can you go about dramatically asking someone? Personalized promposals are usually the most beautiful, referencing an inside joke or meme. Last year, senior Andrea Gorczynski, a junior at the time, received a potato from her boyfriend Nick Fowler with “prom?” beautifully carved out. Cheesily romantic promposals can also be the way to go, with roses and chocolates and tears. Some people may prefer something private though, just a simple text or call. It all truly depends on the individual, so try to cater to their preferences. Some people may even just want to go alone, which should be respected. Dates are overrated anyway.
At the end of the day, prom is about having fun and making memories. Whether that be with or without a date all depends on the individual. Do not feel too pressured or stressed about making the perfect promposal because even if it goes horribly wrong, no one will remember five years down the line. A good promposal is just one that makes you happy, all judgment from others aside. Just remember to be yourself and have a good time.